Anonymous said: Good afternoon, your blog is one of my favourite. I was wondering if you have a selection of books you find usefully to read when aiming for success.
Good afternoon, Sir! When I start striving for success, I collected lists of guides which I wanted to buy and read, but ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ by D. Kahnemann completely changed my attitude and made me delete every single one of them.
Success isn’t about following guidelines, it’s all about ambition, confidence, appearance, and knowledge. Let me explain.
Ambition: Know your goals, never be satisfied with less than you’re entitled to!
Confidence: It goes hand in hand with appearance. Try to improve your rhetoric skills and gesture, your manners, your style, your body. Be the person you want to be and surround yourself with people from which you can learn - all the time. If you like how Mickey in ‘Ray Donovan’ uses his napkin to clean his mouth after dinner (which looks really cool, to be honest) try to get used to it as well. Get some smooth routines in your everyday life and stick to them, people will realize.
Appearance: As mentioned before improve yourself not just in a behavioural manner, observe what women do. Hygiene is not just for ladies and metrosexuals. Treat your body like a temple, watch your skin, hair, nails and teeth, monitor your calorie intake, try to eat macronutrients at the right time and in a proper amount, get used to fresh and healthy food, do sports regularly, visit the gym at least twice a weak. Maybe even think about considering a personal trainer for an individual workout routine to compensate muscular imbalances. You know how good slim fit suits look on an athletic body? David Gandy knows and you should as well.
Knowledge: You want to be a real Gentleman? It’s not only about manners, it’s also about knowledge and applying it. The guy sitting next to you at the bar challenges you to a game of pool, what do you do? Thinking, yeah actually I really like playing pool, but I’ve never done it professionally and I will probably lose. Life is social jungle. To prove yourself you have to be good at numerous things. Playing poker, blackjack, pool, mixing drinks, cooking ‘basic’ recipes on a high level (you want a good tomato sauce? try this), having your own meditation techniques, some tricks and a compulsory well developed common knowledge (economics, religion, languages, cultures, travelling, food, sports, cars, politics, etc.).
Whatever you do, be the best, but stick to your ethics - be integer and loyal. Best of luck!